Being Single And Happy Quotes BiographySource(google.com.pk)“
“Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.”
Yes I am scared. I was so used to sharing everything. I was so used to having someone around.
But the reality is I am my own person, and if I can’t enjoy being single, how can I enjoy being with someone else?
So I started reading about being single, and interviewing other happy single people. Surely I wasn’t the only 31-year-old person who felt uncertain about her new singleness. I needed to find proven ways to be happy as a single adult woman.
In my research, I learned some important truths about being single:Sometimes being in a relationship can make you lazy about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable that your goals take a back seat.
When you’re single, it prompts you to look deep inside yourself and identify the person you really want to be—whether you’re in a relationship or not.
I've actually celebrated being single for years. I found dating (in my early 40s) was just a lame, superficial process & maybe after a career spent around mostly men - I'd just had enough of them. I'd return from deployments & say - "The last thing I want to see right now is a dude. I just want to go shopping for cashmere, girly things, have spa days & bubble baths - and most importantly wine with my girlfriends.
I would be offended at anyone who asked why I wasn't married - like it's some kind of honor and am more offended that someone would compare being single to being homeless or one blissful day of marriage to the mythical prince charming. I was happy to have the bed to myself. I wasn't looking, wasn't wanting to be chained to another person the rest of my life. Once you establish YOU, love YOU, go at life like it's a buffet & you want to taste (sometimes spitting out) as much as possible - your feelings of "aloneness" in single life outweigh that ache of being "lonely" or unappreciated in a relationship (or oppressed in a marriage). You are now free to try living in another country for a while & shift your realities if you really want to taste the world.
That said, after years of being unabashedly & blissfully single, he, the man I thought couldn't
possibly exist so didn't even bother looking, walked in out of the rain
and into my life. This was six months ago - we are both still happy
being "single" but also happy to have found each other to share what we
BOTH enjoy as life's pleasures. Travel, wine, cooking included.
The point - you are so young (I was divorced at 33 & "found myself at 35") and this new singleness is freedom - and begging you to experience everything in life you couldn't do married! It's a gift. Ok, I was expecting to read an article about actually being single. But really this is more of a how to survive between relationships. I have been single for 16 years and have chosen to be single. I love my life and am not looking for a partner to share it with. I have many loving friends, I am not alone. I love my life. I am really tired of people making "single" sound like a fate worse than death. I do not find being single a challenge. I do not find it negative. I am happy for you for finding a way to cope. Enjoy your life...single or not! It is an adventure!I have been single for 16 years and have chosen to be single" pepper that right on in so convincingly...You do not feel sexuality, loneliness or sadness....and you only pity those who do.....gosh you're great...I'm lonely horny and usually cry about it when i'm feeling especially horny....I do not except this fate I'm just looking for some advice while I am single...according to you I'm in the right placeThe bigger challenge to being happily single is when "single" has been nearly your entire adult life, and facing towards your late forties instead of back at your late twenties. While not trying to play Top That, and I appreciate that you are experiencing and sharing where you are now, there is so much more to the single experience than a temporary blip between relationships. When that reality hits you strong and deep as it does for some of us not fortunate enough to find those relationships, that is when your time on the cushion becomes even more important.Very true. I am 28 and have been single my entire life, not even having had a dating relationship. Not for lack of trying, or lack of loving, but just unlucky. There have been 3 or 4 times something almost worked out, but didn't. After so many years, there reaches a point where you realize "I've come this far, and I have had happy times, and I've been reasonably well overall, so I will obviously be okay" and you gain confidence from that. Knowing you don't need any one particular person makes you more comfortable and caring.
Still, we are social creatures, and half of that social biology is dedicated to loving a mate. I have a lot of love to give, and it's a profound aspect of being human. Sometimes being single just sucks, and in those times self-therapy helps about as much as thinking of a warm summer day in the middle of a bitterly cold winter. Embracing how bad it feels, experiencing and knowing your pain, and then watching as it eventually passes is what truly gives you strength. These emotions come and go, and I think truly knowing that prepares you to better love someone else, as any married person can tell you passions are not a constant.